The Love Smart Blog
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As a Relationship Expert, I write about ways to feel more confident and secure, develop self-trust, and have a deeper connection with your self and in your relationship. Articles with eye-opening guidance from Dr. Lisa will keep you on track to living authentically, vulnerably, connected, and having success in your life, work, and relationship.
How to Quiet Quit Your Marriage (And Why You Should Stop)
You've heard of quiet quitting at work. It turns out marriages have a version of this too — and if you've stopped reaching for connection without ever deciding to give up, this is for you.
Why You Feel So Lonely in Your Marriage — Even When He’s Right Next To You
You can feel lonely in your marriage even when you're close. The real reason is your nervous system — and a missing skill called co-regulation.
Have You Ever Been Called ‘Needy’?
Being called needy doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Learn what neediness actually signals about your attachment style — and what healthy interdependence looks like.
Emotional Neglect in Marriage: Signs, Causes, and How to Reconnect
Emotional neglect in marriage is easy to miss but deeply damaging. Learn the warning signs, why it happens, and how couples can reconnect before it's too late
Quiet Quitting Your Marriage: 5 Signs a Partner Has Emotionally Checked Out
Quiet quitting can happen in marriages too. Learn the five stages of emotional withdrawal in relationships and how couples can prevent emotional disengagement.
How To Keep Your Marriage Strong After Having a Baby
Having a baby changes everything — including your marriage. Learn 7 research-backed ways to stay connected, protect your relationship, and thrive as a couple after baby.
How Avoidant Attachment Affects Conflict in Relationships (And How to Break the Cycle)
If your partner shuts down, goes silent, or pulls away during conflict, avoidant attachment may be why. Learn what's really happening — and how to break the cycle.
Avoidant Attachment Style: Why Your Partner Pulls Away and What to Do About It
Is your partner pulling away and shutting down? Here's what avoidant attachment actually looks like in marriage — and what you can do about it.
Why Your Partner Won’t Change (And What to Do Instead)
Many people feel frustrated when their partner won’t change, even after repeated conversations. Here are four common reasons partners resist change—and what actually helps.
Why Things Change After You Get Married (And What to Do About It)
Marriage changes things — but not always in the ways you expected. Learn why the shift happens after the wedding and what couples can do to bridge the distance.
Why Couples Keep Having the Same Fight (And How to Break the Pattern)
Many couples feel stuck having the same fight over and over. Learn how the pursue–withdraw pattern creates recurring arguments—and the first step to changing it.
Why Does My Husband Fall Asleep During an Argument?
When a partner falls asleep or shuts down during an argument, it can feel dismissive. But what looks like not caring is often a nervous system response that creates a painful pursue-withdraw pattern.
Understanding Attachment Styles in Marriage: What They Are and Why They Matter
Anxious or avoidant? Understanding your attachment style can transform your marriage. Learn what each style looks like and how to build a more secure connection.
Why Couples Get Stuck in the Hurt–Defend Cycle (And How to Break It)
Why do couples get stuck in the hurt–defend cycle? Often partners are having two different conversations—one seeking comfort, the other protecting against blame. Learning to recognize this dynamic can transform conflict into connection.
Why Men Avoid Emotional Conversations (And What Actually Helps)
Wondering why your husband shuts down during emotional conversations? Learn the real reasons men avoid opening up — and what you can do to create more connection.